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Decisive Life exists at the intersection of brain injury, healing, and hope.

Jason Lalli — TBI survivor, certified life coach, motivational speaker, published author, and bullying prevention advocate — built this platform from the inside out. After four traumatic brain injuries, he turned lived experience into a mission: to fill the gap the medical system leaves behind.

Here you’ll find a Patreon brain injury resource used by survivors, caregivers, and medical professionals; one-on-one TBI life coaching; and evidence-based bullying prevention programming for schools and youth organizations.

Brain Injury Life-Coaching Testimonials

"I really got to know Jason at a time in my life where I thought I had it figured out. I had just finished six months of an intensive outpatient program and thought I was just building my network of like-minded people.

He has an inate ability to see all parts of you. He very quickly became the best mentor and coach I've ever had. He saw and highlighted things therapists in 25 years haven't.

If you've spent years trying to get better and are frustrated in never finding the right help, you've found the right help with Jason. He shows up in the world authentically and vulnerably. He can see and name your issues because he's seen and dealt with his own. I have never met anybody more committed to healing themselves and in turn sharing the path to healing with others than Lalli.

If you're ready to finally do the work you've been hiding from yourself, reach out. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. You are worth the effort. "

-Amara

Jason is a GIFT in my life! He was able to put me on the path to recovery from my brain injury by showing up as an empathetic witness having shared some of my experiences and guided me through my big challenges by providing hope, sage wisdom and invaluable resources. Thank you Jason! You continue to be a shining beacon of light in my life and you make the world a better place to live and thrive!

Jason, Thank YOU for truly being a GIFT and LIGHT in my life!!!

-Susan

"I can't quite remember how I first came across one of Jason's TBI videos, but I'm really thankful that I did. It led me to discover that he offers services as a Brain Injury Life Coach. From our very first session, it was clear that he truly understands the challenges I face with my brain injury. I've never met anyone who comprehends my personal struggles like Jason does. He has helped me learn to embrace and love my authentic self. He shares valuable tools, strategies, and advice on how to navigate my "new" life with a brain injury. I can genuinely say that Jason has been a blessing to me."

-Mike

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Life COaching
Online and in-person

For years I have been life coaching friends, family, co-workers, clients, and strangers. It's a true gift of mine to be able listen with the intent to understand, validate your perspective/emotions, and guide you to make productive decisions along your life's journey.

As a certified life coach I also have the following certifications; Suicide SAFEtalk, Suicide A.S.I.S.T, Greater Good Science Institute @ UC Berkeley on Social Emotional Learning, Mental Health First Aid Certified and Instructor. This training and over 700 therapies help me to show up as an empathetic witness. I can see it in you, because I had to identify and heal it in myself. I have persevered and have gained a plethora of skills and wisdom to use to guide you.

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100+ TBI Survivor Experience Videos catergorized by topic Podcast TBI Butterflies - Healin

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Brain Injury Resource

Nobody prepared you for life after TBI. That’s exactly why this exists.

For just $5/month, you get access to 125+ Educational TBI Survivor Experience Videos organized by topic, inspirational TBI memes, the TBI Butterflies podcast, TV and podcast interviews, a neuroplasticity Spotify playlist, and a powerful lived-experience resource guide — everything the medical system doesn’t hand you when you walk out the door.

Built for survivors, caregivers, medical professionals, and anyone trying to understand what life after brain injury really looks like.

Patreon.com/VulnerablyLalli

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Bullying Prevention Education

It's time to start a new conversation.

Decisive Life prepares youth to be responsible-decision makers through SEL, Communication Skills, Mindfulness, and Positive Coping Skills. We bridge a stronger sense of belongingness among classmates and the school. We take our responsibility seriously and provide a "Co-Facilitator" to help empower, support, and guide students in duress to school and community resources.

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My brain turned on me — and then I turned on you. Not because that’s who I am. Not because I ever wanted to hurt anyone. But when your brain is at war with itself, the people closest to you get caught in the crossfire.

We call it friendly fire for a reason.

Two people. Two realities. One relationship trying to survive both — and the only way through is the conversation most people are too afraid to have.

Be open. Be honest. Be vulnerable. If we don’t, we cannot bridge the gaps that are struggling deeply between survivors and caregivers.

I hope this perspective helps someone else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

I priced my Patreon at $5/month on purpose.

Not because the content isn’t valuable. Because the people who need it most — survivors on disability, on Social Security, barely making it — shouldn’t be priced out of understanding their own brain injury.

125+ videos. Categorized by topic. Built by a survivor who spent years translating what no doctor, no therapist, no textbook could explain in a way that made sense.

Your budget does not determine whether you deserve a translator.

🔗Patreon.com/VulnerablyLalli

#TBI #TraumaticBrainInjury #BrainInjury #BrainInjurySurvivor #Concussion

The way our mind can quickly become our biggest enemy as a brain injury survivor is not talked about enough.

The flip of a light switch and I cannot regulate myself for hours, days, or weeks. AND ITS TERRIFYING. Which creates anxiety, which creates irritability, and creates depression and so the cycle goes.

unless you have a brain injury it is IMPOSSIBLE to understand what it’s like annnnnnnnd… we are often iudged and condemned for it.

I share this video to hopefully validate some people and open perspective for others!

May this perspective help someone else.

🫂🧠❤️‍🩹🫂

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

Nobody told me my visual field could have collapsed after my brain injuries. This is what 7 weeks in the Sensory Learning Program at Arizona Vision Therapy Center did. Before and after. Documented. Real. The brain doesn’t stop healing. Neither have I.

#TBI #Neuroplasticity #BrainInjury #concussion #neurooptometry

Nobody told me neurooptometry could rewire my brain. Then I experienced it.

After 4 traumatic brain injuries in 16 months, I went to Dr. Amy Thomas at the Arizona Vision Therapy Center in Tucson. The Z-bell test, the colored lenses, the different ways she was literally rewiring how my brain processed — I could feel it happening.

Then came her Sensory Learning Program. 30 days. A rotating bed in a pitch-black room with a single light above me and broken music in my ears forcing my brain to rebuild spatial awareness from scratch. It was one of the hardest things I’ve done in recovery. Every light triggered different emotions.

But afterwards — more clarity of thought. Better communication. More energy. Greater capacity than I had before.

If you haven’t looked into neurooptometry or vestibular therapy depending on your symptoms, I strongly encourage it. These therapies were substantial in getting me to where I am today.

I share this as a perspective. An option. A door you might not know exists.

#TBI #TraumaticBrainInjury #BrainInjury #Neurooptometry #concussion

I didn’t know either… AND we really need tk do better.

So here ai am showing up putting light in the dark shadows in the corners.

Exposing the hard truth the ones that were very hard for me to accept for myself. So I know they are very hard for others to accept for themselves.

I didn’t have my brain injury on my scans until I finally paid for one out-of-pocket then I could see my brain injury. It wasn’t that moment that I broke down and cried because I actually was able to make the connection that I had brain damage.

I was able to give myself permission and compassion and grace to have a damaged brain that the damage validated the symptoms that I had been screaming to be heard about

May this perspective help somebody else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

The body keeps the score and our cells have memory.

On top of living with the symptom and impairments of brain injury. I also got the bonus deal, where it came bundled with PTSD episodes! Yay! Lol.

after the first couple years ALL my therapists(i had 3 at the time) caught that I was spiraling out and the all caught the same pattern, the timeline around two of my accidents.

I do not know why some accidents create these while others do not. But I do know they are very real and being aware of them and being aware we have entered one makes the experiences a whole lot less disorienting and destructive to our daily life.

May this perspective help someone else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

These are real comments. From real people. On my videos.

People who told me I helped them more than their
medical team. People who said I finally put into
words what they’ve been trying to explain for years.
People who told me I’m the reason they’re still here.

I don’t take that lightly.

I am one person. A brain injury survivor with a
limited battery, building a resource that the medical
world hasn’t built yet. And it’s working — not because
of me, but because of what happens when someone who’s
lived it speaks to someone who’s living it.

But I can’t reach every doctor, every therapist, every
neurologist, every rehab center on my own.

You can help me get there.

If this content has helped you — share this video.
Send it to your doctor. Send it to your therapist.
Text it to the person who doesn’t understand what
you go through. Tag someone who needs to see this.

📌 Check my pinned comment — there’s a one-page tool
you can save and share with your medical team. It
gives them everything they need to know in 60 seconds.

Everything I’ve built is on Patreon. 125+ categorized
videos on the lived experience of brain injury.
$5/month. Cancel anytime.

Patreon.com/VulnerablyLalli

You’ve told me I’m your voice. Now I am asking you to please be mine.

🧠❤️‍🩹

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #braininjury
#concussion postconcussion braininjuryawareness
tbiawareness caregiver neurologist rehabilitation
braininjuryrecovery invisibleillness invisabledisability

Did you develop subconscious self soothing/stimming behaviors? If so, how were you self soothing?

This was a powerful realization for me. One that didn’t connect at the time that I ALWAYS FEE UNSAFE, I was doing this lying in bed to gk to bed, watching a movie, taking a nap, having a regular conversation. I did not recognize it meant I was in fight or flight.

May this perspective help someone else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

My memory has been one of my greatest challenges since brain injury.

It was creating a lot of issues with my ability to retain and communicate my experiences whether to my doctor or from my doctor.

So here are two skills that I learned to be able to communicate to my doctor and so that I was still able to retain information from my doctor.

I trust these two skills will be very helpful for somebody else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

Priortizing my day. Handling my issues before self care so when I get done they are yandled and won’t dysregulate me.

@revibeu is my go to place. 10/10 recommend.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #float #hbot #braininjury

My brain will literally create blindspots and omit information.

This is a symptom and impairment of my brain injury.

Sometimes I respond inappropriately and way out of context because important information was omitted by my brain.

Just a little perspective to give you a glimpse of what this reality can be like as a brain iniury survivor.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

The Chiropractor visit put me in a PTSD episode and that depression snuck up on me!

No matter how intentional or self aware I am subconscious symptoms like depression can be present for some time until I recognize the pattern.

I share this so we can 1) works towards presence and active self awareness. 2) to give ourselves compassion and grace for when these things sneak up on us

May this perspective help somebody else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #depression

I was situationally depressed. I was not chemically depressed. I am no longer on a single meditation, and I’ve had more peace in my life than I have ever had. Even after a brain injury, but that is a testament to how much work I have done on learning to accept myself and love myself.

If these doctors and pharmaceutical companies have the ability to create neurotransmitter medication’s, then they have the ability to test us for the neurotransmitter deficiencies before prescribing u. In my own personal opinion to prescribe us medication’s, changing the chemical interactions in our brain without any test only symptoms is reckless and irresponsible, and they should be held accountable.

But I wanted to share all the many different reasons that we get depressed after brain injury, and the same goes for anxiety and irritability. The emotions that we feel are so intense and they aren’t just because the brain has been damaged. It is because our lives have changed in tremendous and traumatic ways.

I hope this perspective helps somebody else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #depression

Patreon.com/VulnerablyLalli is a resource created by a survivor for survivors, caregivers, medical professionals, etc… IT IS A COMMUNICATION TOOL for survivors.

#tbi #medicalprofessional #braininjury #concussion #traumaticbraininjury

Brain Injury Survivors need a sense of connection. This is a safe place for survivors to find a sense of belongingness amongst each other.
The host Lalli, is a TBI survivor sharing TBI Survivor Experiences online. He had to become his own light in the darkness and is now advocating to be a light to help guide others through their darkness.
Brain Injury Survivors need a sense of connection. This is a safe place for survivors to find a sense of belongingness amongst each other.
The experience of a survivor is often misunderstood and there are few places for us to connect with others like us. This is THAT PLACE!
Let’s connect.
Let’s support.
Let’s heal...together.
We also do a short sound bath at the end to decompress and release the heaviness and recenter ourselves a we reengage with the world.

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A Safe Haven for Healing and Growth

Jason Lalli’s TBI group is truly a beacon of hope for anyone navigating life after a traumatic brain injury. The space he’s created is compassionate, supportive, and filled with genuine understanding. Every session feels like a blend of education, healing, and connection — a reminder that recovery is not only possible but can be deeply transformative.

Jason leads with heart and authenticity, sharing his knowledge and personal experience in a way that empowers everyone in the group. The community he’s fostered helps you feel seen, heard, and valued — something that’s often missing in the TBI journey.

If you’re seeking encouragement, insight, and a group of people who truly “get it,” this is the place to be. Thank you, Jason, for helping so many of us rediscover hope, strength, and purpose.”
-Faith Bencomo, TBI Survivor

It’s like I don’t know how to relationship anymore. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Navigating the layers of brain injury while navigating the layers of relationships. Yikes, it’s a lot.

i have lost many. Others have suffered simply because I am on an energy budget. Others struggle because I am just different. I basically only have space for those who seek me out and even then, dependent on the environment and my energy levels/capacity. That narrows a lot of engagement.

i trust this perspective will help others learn. I know I am not alone in other survivors struggling with relationshipping. (Yes I made up my own word—You are welcome)

So I learn one step one breath, one moment at a time.

Awareness creates conversation. Conversation generates critical thinking for improvement.🫂🧠❤️‍🩹🫂

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

Even then, this is just a glimpse to the iceberg.

There are just so many levels and layers in need of relearning.

Brain Injuries complexities require a tremendous amount of intentional energy directed towards learning self with a magnifying glass.

I and others become hyper vigilant to our environments and experiences both internal and external. There are many subconscious blindspots we cannot see about ourselves and how we have been impacted.

may this perspective help someone else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

So proud of my son. My ex wife wrote the best caption so here it is:

“From yellow footprints to full-on science warrior... how did we get here so fast?!

You stand here now, a graduate of CBRN with the United States Marine Corps-where strength is tested, but so is the mind. Where others see fear in chemistry and biology, you found clarity... breaking it down, understanding it, mastering it.
You didn’t just learn it—you became fluent in it.

There’s something powerful about the way you move through the world-steady, thoughtful, unshaken. Built with both instinct and intellect... strong enough to carry the weight, and sharp enough to understand it.

And now, you step forward into your CBRF journey. A new path, a deeper calling. One that asks more of you-and I know you will rise, just as you always have.

I have loved you in every version of your life... but watching you become this man-it’s something | don’t have words for, only pride that runs deep and steady.

Always your home. Always your biggest supporter.

Semper Fi.”

The “redefining” that my life has required has been substantial. This is one way I had to learn how to engage differently.

Removing my expectations of what joy USED to feel like, and begin learning what it feels like today. And its Entirely different.

Just because I don’t laugh, or feel overwhelmingly happy, doesn’t mean I didn’t interpret, understand, and even agree with the emotions that are void in my expression and feelings.

May this perspective help someone else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

It has to be said.

Been meaning to say it for a while.

Please ask yourself, where and why any of us started thinking and treating the other in such ways? 🫂

#men #women #relationships #mutualrespect #dating

It’s a delicate balance… one that constantly shifts and moves and changes.

But I am aware of this reality and pattern so I observe and honor self best I can. I learn where I need to. I push as I feel spirit led to, and I rest when body and spirit speaks to.

Be patient. Observe and honor yourself and you will learn your limitations so you can strive for balance.

May this perspective help someone else.

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

My desire: to do more. To contribute. To provide. To be independent.

My limitations: 2-5 hour work window = 1-2 day body shut down with brain exacerbation.

I had and have to be honest with myself about what I can and cannot do. I hope you can be honest with yourself too.

Keep learning the new you. 🫂🧠❤️‍🩹🫂

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

‼️READ CAPTION! — I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

Nobody told me what an exacerbation was…
That I had either overdone myself or I was actually healing…

So I share with you, so you may know. You may be more prepared. You can be preventative. That you can communicate to your loved ones that you are in one and your loved ones can BE CURIOUS to notice when your symptoms show up worse.

Be gentle, be intentional and give compassion and grace to learn yourself and your new reality.

#tbi
#tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

To be tolerated, resented, judged and condemned for having a brain injury?!

Yup, that’s a SPECIAL type of pain. One that I don‘t think anyone truly heals from.

I have done a lot of trauma work to increase my tolerance and reparent these narratives. But it still sneaks up on me, how bad it hurt to be tolerated…. By my loved ones.

I cut the chord, I moved on. I DESERVED BETTER!

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

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“You have been showing up even when it’s hard”.

I became the light in my own darkness, to help you find yours.

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It’s the resource we, as survivors have needed!

#tbi #resource #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion

It’s National Poetry Month.

I am creating a poetry book that speaks to the TBI journey.

Here is a glimpse of one of the poems inside it!

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

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I have built much more for a resource for you.

Take a look, It’s waiting for you.

🫂🧠❤️‍🩹🫂

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

It’s all too common of an experience for a TBI survivor.

And…

It’s really hurtful to have our loved ones or others act with such preconceived judgement.

So can we please stop acting like we think we know what someone with a brain injury is supposed to look like?

Let’s get more curious and compassionate. 🙏🏻🫂🧠❤️‍🩹🫂

#tbi #tbisurvivor #traumaticbraininjury #concussion #braininjury

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Meet Lalli

Jason Lalli

President/Executive Director

Jason Lalli didn’t plan to become a brain injury advocate. He planned to keep living the life he had.

After four traumatic brain injuries in sixteen months, that life was gone — and the medical system handed him a stack of results and sent him home without a translator. No roadmap. No warning about what was coming. No one who spoke the language of what he was actually living.

So he became that person.

Today Jason is a certified life coach, motivational speaker, published author, spoken word artist, and bullying prevention advocate based in Phoenix, Arizona. He holds certifications in Suicide SAFEtalk, Suicide A.S.I.S.T., Mental Health First Aid, and Social Emotional Learning through UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Institute. He has been featured by the Brain Injury Alliance of Arizona and has worked with survivors, caregivers, schools, and medical professionals across the country.

His Patreon — VulnerablyLalli — houses 125+ categorized TBI survivor videos, the TBI Butterflies podcast, a lived-experience resource guide, and more. All of it built for the person who just got handed a diagnosis and doesn’t know what comes next.

He coaches because he can see in others what he had to find in himself.

Our Mission Statement

Decisive life focuses to help break the cycle by promoting emotional health, belongingness, and pro-social (kind and helpful) behaviors through research-based prevention education. Our goal is to provide education and resources for educators, parents, youth, and our extended communities by empowering them to be responsible decision makers through social-emotional learning (SEL), mindfulness, and life-skills training.

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Get in touch with Decisive Life to learn more about our work and find out how to donate.

We are based out of Phoenix, Arizona.

Thank you for your support

JLalli@DecisiveLife.org

Brain Injury Life-Coaching Testimonials

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Brain Injury Life-Coaching Testimonials​

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Life COaching Online and in-person

Patreon: Brain Injury Resource

Bullying Prevention Education

Our Life Changing Programming

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Meet Lalli

Jason Lalli

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President/Executive Director

Our Mission Statement

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Brain Injury Life-Coaching Testimonials

Life COaching
Online and in-person

Patreon:

Brain Injury Resource

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